You gotta work on your self-confidence, your passion in life and in the things you believe in or do, the way you present yourself (body language, dressing, physique and voice projection), your sense of humour and I suppose, the dark arts of what turn women on (how to maintain sexual tension). So, it’s a lot of self-improvement, coupled with psychology and quite a lot of basic common sense. It does turn conventional thought on how to chase women on its head – convention being to get a chick, you buy her gifts and bring her to fancy restaurants etc – which is basically you trying to impress the chick with your spending power…………or by being the good friend. The guy who makes her chicken soup when she’s sick, who takes notes for her at lectures she misses, who picks her up from the mall etc………..the guy who does everything but sleep with her because you’re as sexy as a hamster. There’s no sexual tension. There’s a lot of focus on not appearing to be too interested – sorta like the male version of playing hard to get.

I believe some of these theories make sense, and its wise to focus on improving oneself and not obsessing about women and how after you do this, women will naturally come. It’s sorta like the Spanish national soccer team – they sometimes play almost like they don’t wanna win – they seem to enjoy playing soccer for soccer’s sake……….and most times, they end up winning. Similarly, if you stop obsessing about the girl, you have more time to devote on your career, relationships, hobbies etc and end up becoming a more attractive guy. A guy who’s got his life sorted, who lives with a passion and who’s infectiously awesome and positive is super attractive.

Still, I really think that you need wisdom as well………to pick the right girl, and to know what to do to maintain the attraction after the initial score. I’m assuming you’re looking for something long term, eventually (after you’ve gotten your kicks off)……….which is when you need to realise how much Jesus loves you. When you start to be in a close relationship with God, that’s when the magic happens. That’s when we really start talking – meeting an awesome chick who thinks you’re divine is only one of the many many things that will then come your way.